Studies suggest that around 1 in 6 boys experience sexual abuse before reaching the age of 18, with approximately 90% of these crimes committed by someone they know. Despite the prevalence, societal norms have historically discouraged men from expressing feelings of vulnerability, perpetuating a cycle of silence and suffering. Highlighting the importance of addressing this issue, Creative Change Conferences held its 15th annual “It Happens to Boys Conference” on March 8th, 2024, at St. Margaret’s Episcopal Church in Palm Desert, CA.
Mike Schaub, Senior Director of Community Relations at Social Model Recovery Systems (SMRS), took on the vital role of Master of Ceremonies for the event, symbolizing our profound commitment to community support and recovery. As a cornerstone of the recovery community, SMRS places a strong emphasis on trauma-informed care, reflecting an understanding of the intricate ways trauma impacts individuals’ lives, particularly in the realm of substance abuse.
Led by Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Carol Teitelbaum, the event serves as a critical platform for addressing the stigmatization of male victimhood and promoting healing from sexual trauma. It brings survivors, therapists, social workers, and law enforcement professionals together, creating a unique space for exchanging resources, experiences, and support. This collective effort seeks not only to break the deep-rooted silence surrounding male sexual abuse but also to prevent the negative outcomes, such as aggression, domestic violence, and substance abuse, that often stem from unresolved trauma.
The conference featured personal testimonies from individuals like Robert Julian Stone and Daniel Marquez. Additionally, insights from notable figures such as author Dave Pelzer and Jerry Moe of the National Association for Children of Addictions (NACoA) showcased a diverse range of experiences and expertise. Through these voices, the event highlighted the complex impacts of trauma, from mental health struggles to the challenges of substance abuse, emphasizing the power of resilience and the importance of seeking support.
Robert Julian Stone’s courageous decision to share his story not only facilitated his personal healing but also sparked systemic change, leading to the University of Michigan’s groundbreaking $490 million settlement in abuse cases. Similarly, Daniel Marquez’s journey from a tumultuous childhood marked by abuse to over two decades of sobriety and advocacy illustrates the profound potential for transformation through support and rehabilitation.
Dave Pelzer’s participation brought an inspiring narrative of overcoming severe childhood abuse, resonating deeply with attendees and reinforcing the message that healing is achievable. Jerry Moe added a crucial perspective on the importance of supporting the youngest victims of familial substance abuse, advocating for early intervention and education to foster resilience and hope.
Social Model Recovery Systems’ dedication to trauma-informed care highlights an essential approach to healing, recognizing the deep-seated impact of trauma on mental health and substance use. By offering personalized support, the organization aims to empower individuals to face their experiences without shame, facilitating a journey towards recovery that is both sustainable and transformative.
